Mum tries to take her own life after being plagued by extreme PMS for eight years

A MUM whose PMS became so unbearable that she took an overdose, has finally been cured after having a full hysterectomy.

Natalie Raeside, from Ilkley, West Yorkshire, suffered from such extreme premenstrual rage that she resorted to having her womb, cervix, ovaries and fallopian tubes removed at just 40-years-old.

 Natalie says that her PMDD kicked in after the birth of her second daughter

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Natalie says that her PMDD kicked in after the birth of her second daughter

For eight years after the birth of her daughter Jessica, the charity worker would turn into a “Jekyll and Hyde” every month – almost losing her job after having a fit of rage in the office.

Natalie spent almost a decade of suffering from Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD), crying in the work loos regularly as she struggled with very painful and heavy periods.

Baffled doctors diagnosed her with depression and anxiety, prescribing her antidepressants.

But the normally outgoing mum-of-two knew that she hadn’t received the correct diagnosis.

 She's spent the best part of a decade struggling with debilitating symptoms - with GPs diagnosing her with other chronic mental health issues

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She’s spent the best part of a decade struggling with debilitating symptoms – with GPs diagnosing her with other chronic mental health issues

Eventually, after doing a load of research online herself, Natalie discovered that her monthly moods could be down to PMDD – an extreme form of PMS.

PMS can be uncomfortable enough, with mood swings, tiredness, bloating, breast tenderness and headaches but PMDD is so much worse.

The condition can cause severe anxiety, depression and tension ahead of periods and despite figures suggesting that one in 20 British women suffer from it, it’s still a poorly understood issue.

Many are wrongly diagnosed with mental health conditions like bipolar disorder, postnatal depression and severe anxiety.

 Natalie has had a full hysterectomy - which she says has gotten rid of the issue

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Natalie has had a full hysterectomy – which she says has gotten rid of the issue

Natalie, who never struggled with depression or PMDD before having her second child, said the symptoms came as a massive shock.

She said: “When it was really awful, I would feel like my blood was boiling. I became so angry at everything and I wasn’t acting like myself. My family were being affected by it massively.”

Before her daughter was born, Natalie said that her periods were normal: “I maybe got a bit tearful the day before, that was about it.

“So after the birth of my daughter, I had a bit of postnatal depression and I had to be put on antidepressants because of that.

“But it sort of gradually became clear that the symptoms were starting around the time of my period.

“And that at the beginning of my cycle, I would feel absolutely fine and then it would just switch. These symptoms would get worse and worse towards the date of my period.”

At its worst, Natalie worried that her actions might lead to the breakdown of her family.

What is PMDD?

Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) is a severe and disabling form of premenstrual syndrome.

It only affects 3-8 per cent of menstruating women so it’s rare, but it can have a devasting impact on the lives of those who have it.

While PMS can be unpleasant, PMDD is much more serious and can make it hard to work, socialise and have healthy relationships.

The exact causes are still not fully understood but some research suggests that there might be a genetic factor at play.

Scientists believe that some women might be very sensitive to changes in hormone levels, while there’s also a belief that PMDD can also be linked to past emotional or physical trauma.

 

 

 

Emotional symptoms include:

  • mood swings
  • feeling upset, tearful, angry, irritable, hopeless, anxious and tense
  • lack of energy
  • suicidal thoughts
  • difficulty concentrating

Physical symptoms include:

  • breast tenderness or swelling
  • muscular and/or joint pain
  • headaches
  • bloating
  • changes to appetite
  • sleep problems

These symptoms typically occur a week or two before your period starts.

Source: Mind.org

“I became very aware of that two-week window where I literally didn’t know what was going to happen to me,” she remembered.

“I spent the other half of the month worrying about those two weeks and what will happen.

“At the beginning, maybe every four months I would have a bad mental episode but it became every single month.

“It was debilitating. Some days I literally felt like I couldn’t face the world. It was incredibly isolating.”

Despite following her GP’s advice to change her diet, exercise routine and practice medication, nothing worked. By the end, she estimates that she was going to the doctor every two weeks.


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“Looking back now, I really really struggled for four or five years, it gradually became worse.

“At the time I just got on it. I had two small children to look after and because I had been diagnosed with bad PMT, I just accepted it.

“I had been going to my GP for visit after visit after visit. I would ring her in tears.

“I can remember three occasions where I’ve rung my GP in desperation, crying down the phone, and what they did at that point was suggest counselling, suggest increasing level of antidepressants, just to see whether that made a difference.”

It was only when she joined a Facebook support group that she put two and two together – asking to be referred to a surgon who cautioned against having a full hysterectomy.

She initially had her ututus removed and that was when Natalie hit rock bottom – taking an overdose afteter dropping her kids off at school.

 She now blogs about her experiences of PMDD

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She now blogs about her experiences of PMDD

“Obviously once I’d had my uterus removed, I wasn’t having periods but my body was still in the same cycle.

‘And actually, after the operation, my symptoms got worse.

“I can’t explain that because I’m not a doctor but I’m not sure they can explain it either.

“When I took an overdose, nothing had happened particularly in the day. I was experiencing worse symptoms but I surprised myself.

“I don’t remember getting up to the sofa and going through the cabinet where the tablets were.”

After she was discharged, she rang her GP to explain what had happened and within days, she was back at the consultant arranging to have a full hysterectomy.


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Natalie says that since her op, her depression and anxiety have lifted.

“For the first time in my life now, I feel like I have control over my body because those ovaries and hormones are gone.

“It was the biggest feeling of relief, I couldn’t wait to have the operation. I feel very lucky that I was able to access help privately as many women cannot.

“It’s really important that I get across that I’m a really happy woman normally, I enjoy my life. I’ve got healthy kids, a husband, a successful career and amazing friends.

“From the outside, people would wonder what I have to be down about.

“To try and then explain that you feel suicidal and think about taking overdoses just because it’s coming up to your period, it’s very difficult to understand.”

Laura Murphy is the co-founder of Vicious Cycles, which promotes awareness of PMDD.

She says that Laura’s struggle to have her condition recognised by medical professionals is far from being unusual.

“There’s a lot more recognition but actually a great deal more needs to be done.

“People like Natalie who come out and talk about their condition are really brave as it helps more people understand what is going on.

“PMDD affects one in 20 women, but currently, it has not got the recognition that it needs.

“Anyone who thinks they may think they’re affected by PMDD, I recommend they first visit the International Association for Premenstrual Disorders.”

Natalie has now started blogging about her experiences in a bid to help other women.

You can find it here.


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